Monday, July 28, 2014

How Being a Teacher Has Made Me a Better Mom

Last week, my husband Trey went on a trip to Canada (Winnipeg, to be exact), and I had to become a true "supermom". I had no idea how much I really depend on his help to carry out the evening activities. I think our night time routine (dinner, bath, and bed time) is the hardest part of the day, because everyone is tired. Tired babies (which are sometimes overtired babies, due to being two-years-old and trying to skip nap time!!) are a lot harder to work with. Naturally, everyone needed mommy at the same time. So, for about an hour (sometimes longer), I learned to take a deep breath, pray to God for patience, and hold my babies tight as we worked our way to sweet slumber.

How does being a teacher help me accomplish this? Let's see if I can effectively explain. When you teach, you are challenged with teaching a large group of children, who all have different strengths and weaknesses. As a fifth grade teacher, I had to teach five subjects everyday, to 20+ kids : below grade level, on grade level, and above grade level, while maintaining a structured, disciplined classroom, and keeping my sanity. And some of those kids are running up and down aisles, slamming themselves onto the desks of other children, screaming out randomly, and throwing objects. I kid you not. Of course, for students like these, I usually had a second hand in the room (you know who you are and I am forever grateful for your help), but nevertheless, it's utter chaos. And you know that if you don't figure out how to get the material taught and mastered, you could lose your job. These days, teaching jobs are a lot harder to come by. So you figure it out and you get it done. 

That's how I felt this last week as I was putting my two children (ages 2 years and 6 months) to bed. I know, it's a bit of a ridiculous comparison, but it made me feel like I could persevere. Now, I know there are "supermoms" out there who have to do this everyday because their husbands have jobs that make them unavailable, or maybe things didn't work out with their husbands and they're single moms. I praise you all - you are ROCKSTARS in my book. Somehow, I thought that with my husband being on vacation, I too, would have a little vacation for myself. HAH! I forgot that he helps me with so much in the evenings (this is a shout out to you, babe). By the time I got everything done that we both usually tackle, I was exhausted and ready to pass out in my bed.
My good friend Kate, and her son Noah, came to visit while Trey was away.
Bath time was easy to handle - throw 'em all in and let the dog supervise!

So, back to the point: how do you teach children with different needs at the same time? You do what you can keeping the kids together in a whole group, and then you work with them in smaller groups. You give the kids who have "got it" something that will challenge them while they work on their own, so that way you can focus on the students who "don't got it" and work one on one or in small groups to strengthen their abilities.

I took this strategy that got me through my three years of teaching fifth grade, and applied it to our bedtime routine. Now, depending on levels of exhaustion, hunger, and wellness (Victoria had a fever two of the nights), different children got to work independently. If Samuel needed to go to bed NOW (he lets you know), then I nursed him while Victoria danced around us and read books. If Victoria needed to go to bed NOW (she lets you know), then Samuel would lay in her floor and roll around, working on his core strength, while I read a book with Victoria, said prayers, and sang to her (and yes, if she wasn't too tired, Samuel joined in on reading, praying, and singing too). Sounds obvious, I'm sure. But I'm so used to doing things a certain way when Trey is here, that change is hard. Usually, I'm in charge of putting one of the kids to bed and he's in charge of the other; so when he's gone, I feel like the substitute, who's been left with no lesson plans, trying to figure out how to best teach the material that needs to be learned.  

Now that I'm staying at home with my children, I often think back to my days at Hollins University where I studied to be a teacher. Or maybe it's my monthly student loan bill that reminds me. But do I see my studies and time spent teaching as a waste? Absolutely not. How else would I have learned how to get my kids to bed when Trey is gone? Thank you, Masters in the Art of Education! Totally worth it. 

See you mommies later, 

Lizzie

Saturday, July 12, 2014

Life as a SAHM

A year and a couple months later...

I'm back! And I guess technically I'm no longer a "new mommy", since I now have TWO! Yes, that's right: two children under two. Well, I did have two under two until 13 days ago when my sweet daughter, Victoria, turned two. So now I'm the mommy of a big two-year-old, an almost six-month-old, an almost three-year-old lab, and a nine-year-old cat! I take my responsibilities to all my babies (human and fur) very seriously, of course.

Here's a quick catch-up on the last 14 months of life:

About a month after my last post, during our final weeks of living with Memaw and Pepaw in Richmond, while I finished my third year of teaching fifth grade and Trey started his first days of practicing dentistry as an official DDS, we found out we were pregnant with #2! And in case you're wondering, because anyone wanting another baby when they still have one baby is crazy - yes, this baby was planned! We're baby people. We're family people. So don't be surprised when you get the next announcement of more kiddos in this household.

So, back to the last year, while Trey started working, and I got to stop working as a teacher and learn the new trade of SAHM (stay-at-home-mom). It is a LOT harder than it looks! No breaks. Not even at lunch. Or when you go to the bathroom. And then figuring out the best way to fill your days so that you're providing educational, yet fun, experiences for your growing toddler, while also shaping and molding them into well-behaved little humans. Oh - and don't forget you have to keep the house clean, make dinner,  do laundry, run errands, etc., etc. So for all you people who think being a SAHM is not a job, I have news for you! It's the hardest job out there! You're on the clock 24/7. Not to mention, being an oven for the next little one while being a SAHM makes the job even more challenging. Thank goodness Victoria took a 2-3 hour nap everyday in the afternoon, or I don't think I would have made it!

Fast forward to January 23, 2014, when Samuel, IV was born. After an eventful summer, fall, and start of winter in our new home and new town, we now had a new little mouth to feed. Winter was cold and seemed to go on forever, especially being stuck inside with a newborn and a newly walking, newly talking, toddler. I found myself aching to get out of the house and into civilization once I was getting into the swing of things with Samuel's sleep schedule and breastfeeding again. There were several days you would find me bundling up my little ones in 30 degree weather and heading to Target for my "mommy time". I quickly learned how to use my new carrier, the Baby Ergo (I highly recommend this contraption), and I would wear Samuel (who stayed warm against my hormonally-charged body heat) and put Victoria in the shopping cart, and head into my most favorite of places. Target was definitely one of my saving graces during these early, cold days!

Fast forward to now. July 12, 2014. Samuel is sleeping through the night (ALLELUIA) and Victoria is an amazing big sister. She loves giving "baby" kisses and attempting to get him to dance with her. Trey continues to be the most fun-loving daddy and caring husband, while providing for us to run around each day having an awesome summer. I must say, being a SAHM mom is certainly the most challenging job I've ever had, but it's also the most rewarding. I absolutely LOVE it and cherish every moment (good and bad) with my sweet babies. Speaking of, they're both ready to get up and start the day! So I better head to work (at 6 AM on a Saturday, you should know!), starting with a change of diapers and some sweet, sweet kisses.

- Lizzie